"You learn from making mistakes, especially at this age," said Lichtenfeld. "I actually talk them through that and teach them that they have to look at it from a different angle and try different things and keep going. They learn to use those setbacks as learning opportunities."
Lichtenfeld also warns so-called helicopter parents to give their children room to make mistakes. Instead of swooping in to fix a problem, she suggested that they have a knowledgeable friend or relative act as a consultant.
"Think about who you know who might be able to help them and simply make the introduction," said Lichtenfeld, adding that kids need to learn to reach out to people other than their parents.