NEW YORK (TheStreet) -- You may not always agree with your boss but the office is never a place to work out your issues with authority figures. Unless you work for your family business, your boss is not a parent or a sibling. She is the person who makes decisions about your raises, promotions, and professional development. She is also the person who may serve as a reference when you are in a job search or apply to grad school. Leave family issues at home where they belong and know when you have crossed the line.
Also recognize that your boss may have her own issues and challenges. These you will experience firsthand when you find yourself, on occasion, in the line of fire. No one among us is perfect. She may be fearful of losing her job or see you as the competition. She may also bring personal baggage to the office that will find a way to surface in her management style -- and that is heightened in her role as a manager and with you, in particular, as her employee. So, as her employee you do have the power to hit a raw nerve every so often when you say or do something dumb or unwelcome.
There are lots of ways that we can harm a relationship with our boss through our actions and words. Here are 10 examples of what not to say or do and why. And remember, it is often the "why" where we learn the most:
10. "Wow, you're as old as my parents."
Your boss is probably much older than you so, go ahead and rub it in -- put your foot in your mouth by stating the obvious. And what is your point? Besides suggesting that your boss is out of touch with current trends and is basically a dinosaur. Far too many companies are obsessed with youth. Most bosses as they age would prefer not to be reminded that they have fewer years left to be viewed as valuable.