NEW YORK (MainStreet) — If you're a natural leader, working on a team project may seem like torture. Here are three ways to catch some team spirit and get out of your funk before everyone on your team wants to kill you.
Take a step back.
Since natural leaders like challenges, they should challenge themselves when working on teams to step back and engage others, says Molly Owens, chief executive of Truity, a provider of online personality and career assessment.
"Yes, it can be frustrating at times to not get your way, but good leadership is about inspiring others, not bossing them around," Owens says.
If you find you're usually the first to take action or speak up, pause, take a deep breath and count to 10, says Morag Barrett, chief executive of SkyeTeam, an international HR and leadership development firm.
"This will give others time to speak first. You can then contribute your thoughts and build upon others' contributions," she says. "Be seen as the value-add, not the take-away."
Being out of your "comfort zone" is a good place for bossy types to be, clinical psychologist Barbara Greenberg says.
"When I was forced to work as a team member, I became much more aware of people's strengths and weaknesses," Greenberg says. "You quickly learn who to turn to, who can help you and who can fill in for you when you need them. You just have to get out of the paranoid zone of thinking that everyone is after your job."