NEW YORK (MainStreet) — Valentine’s Day: the honorary romantic holiday that allows restaurants to up their prices and couples to question their relationships. While Valentine’s Day originated in the 5th century as a feast for Christian saints, it has now morphed into a reason for significant others to stress out about buying the perfect gifts for each other, choosing the perfect card, and planning the perfect date. While most think of February 14 as the day that a man should take his lady to a fancy dinner and shower her in expensive wine and even more expensive diamonds, the case is quite the opposite for most couples.
Ever since women in the workforce became a societal norm, the possibility of a woman making more money than her male counterpart has become quite common. While the unspoken rules of equality state that it doesn’t matter who makes more money, it does put a bit of a spin on the unspoken rules of this overstated “holiday.” So…how does Valentine’s Day work when the woman is the so-called “breadwinner?” Does she expect to be wined and dined in the same way as a woman who is dating a male breadwinner? Or, does she feel like she should foot the bill or choose a less expensive place because she knows that he doesn’t make as much money as she does?
According to Dr. Carole Lieberman, Beverly Hills psychiatrist, author, and radio personality, the bottom line of it all is this is that, regardless of how much she makes, a woman still wants showered with affection.
“Regardless of whether the woman makes more money or not, she needs to be courted and adored, if not put on a pedestal, for Valentine’s Day,” Lieberman said. "Most women, breadwinning or not, just want to be made to feel special, especially on Valentine’s Day. For some couples, a steak dinner with a bottle of fancy champagne will do that, while for others, a quiet night at home with takeout Chinese in front of the fireplace might seal the deal. However, the question of how the financials work in female-breadwinning relationships is where things start to get unclear.