NEW YORK ( TheStreet) -- Q: At work, I'm the guy who everyone knows. I'm never afraid to voice my opinions at large meetings. When my group is presenting, I'm the one who volunteers to talk at our presentations. Lately I've been sensing that maybe I'm getting on people's nerves. I worry that my bosses are becoming tired of hearing me. Should I change my approach?A: There is nothing innately wrong with being the most talkative member of a group. Somebody has to be! Since you aren't a mind reader, it isn't at all helpful to try and guess what colleagues are thinking about your behavior, in meetings or otherwise. As for your bosses, if they haven't made any overtures to silence you I imagine they are not overly concerned with your loquacious personality. What matters is what you think of your behavior. The real question becomes, if indeed you feel you're talking too much what purpose is it serving? Here are three possibilities (of many) as I see them:
- Perhaps you're experiencing anxiety about the material discussed in the meetings. Paradoxically, as a way to overcompensate we often speak excessively when we don't fully understand the topic at hand. It's a definite possibility that you've a strong desire to impress your bosses. Maybe your logic is simple: the more you speak, the more you'll be heard, the more you'll be recognized! Are you the type of person who understands concepts and processes ideas while in active conversation? All this talking might be part of your natural learning style.