Divorced? So What?: Ask Noah

NEW YORK ( TheStreet) -- Q: I have been dating this woman for five months and it's starting to get serious. My concern is she has been through a messy divorce. Should this prevent me from me moving forward in the relationship?

A: Absolutely, 100% no!

Marriages and relationships end for any number of reasons. Take a look at your own personal dating history for empirical evidence!

How about putting yourself in her shoes? She's fearlessly throwing herself back into the dating scene.

Although she probably picks up on men's signals and concerns, she's still in it to win it. That takes a lot of guts.

Let's reframe this: Post-divorce, she now has a much stronger understanding of the man she wants. If you two are a match, you will both discover this quickly.

Still, you can't overlook the impact this had on her.

Perhaps you can feel her wound lingering and playing itself out in your interactions. You may need to be a little more cautious, a little more sensitive. But remember this divorce does not define who she is.

If there's really a special connection and you feel ready to create a stronger commitment, do not let anything get in the way!

Enjoy your time together. Please continue sending questions and comments to ASK NOAH at nskass@gmail.com.

Have a profitable and peaceful week,


This article was written by an independent contributor, separate from TheStreet's regular news coverage.
Noah Kass is a psychotherapist specializing in addiction, relationship issues and work stressors. He has been Clinical Director at The Dunes: East Hampton and Realization Center in Union Square. Mr. Kass was a frequent guest on MSNBC's "The Dylan Ratigan Show," featured in a segment called "Kass' Couch" and regularly blogs for The Huffington Post.