The following commentary comes from an independent investor or market observer as part of TheStreet's guest contributor program, which is separate from the company's news coverage."There is winning and there is misery." -- Bill Parcells NEW YORK ( TheStreet) -- If you have been an investor in beleaguered tech giant Research in Motion ( RIMM)over the past couple of years, it is safe to say that you are feeling pretty miserable. If you're not feeling some form of misery then you are probably not paying attention. Better yet, I would like to hear from you so you can share your coping strategies because as the quote above from legendary coach Bill Parcells states, there is no middle ground between winning and misery. It's a foregone conclusion that RIM has lost its fight with Apple ( AAPL) and Google ( GOOG) over the smartphone and devices market -- a market that by all accounts that it perfected after trouncing Palm in the same manner that it now finds itself. What is the silver lining and can it recover?