The following commentary comes from an independent investor or market observer as part of TheStreet's guest contributor program, which is separate from the company's news coverage.NEW YORK ( TheStreet) -- Q: My brother and I have always been close. As adults; I have become financially successful and he has struggled. He has often asked me to lend him money for a variety of reasons. I've always felt obligated to him and have loaned him the money. Recently he asked me to finance a project of his as an investor. I am very wary of this plan and feel uncomfortable investing. I would like nothing more than to trust him here, and yet my discomfort reigns. Please advise me on how to proceed. A: The financial generosity is admirable. However, it is creating an unhealthy family dynamic and cannot continue in it's present form. Follow TheStreet on Twitter and become a fan on Facebook. This "unjustified" obligation toward your brother is breeding "justified" resentment. "Investment" in his projects brings with it obvious concern.
It also defines the exchange. It is business not family. However, and you need to hear this...You are still allowed to "Just say no!" When someone asks for something, it does not mean we have to give it to them. Family included. Do not let money ruin the strong bond you have with your brother. Tell your brother this, and it will help him hear what you have to say. I wish you the best of luck, and look forward to hearing his response. Please keep sending any questions or comments to "Ask Noah" at firstname.lastname@example.org Have a profitable and peaceful week, Noah