Could this friends and family stock issue be more misunderstood? An incredible number of you e-mailed me and said that my position --

that F&F must go -- would hurt the little guy.

The little guy? Oh, please! That is just plain ridiculous. The little guy would benefit much more from a lottery that allowed him in than from friends and family. Funny thing, but the people who get this stock tend to be wealthy people and they give the stock to other wealthy people or to people who would help the business.

Another group of critics said that F&F stock rewards some people who took risks in doing business with you. Hold it, that's just business. And the rewards belong to the companies the people work for, not the people themselves, especially if the companies are public.

When it comes to matters like this, I always default to a simple standard: what would it look like if you disclosed the recipients. Would it be embarrassing? I think in most cases it would be. So at a minimum, if we can't ban F&F we should at least demand that the handout/kickback be disclosed so we can find out what kinds of deals may have been made to further a company's growth. That would be a simple but positive change.

Random musings:

Speaking of F&F,

Fortune

TheStreet Recommends

's Melanie Warner is not the only one who deserves credit for bringing this issue to light. Back in October of last year, Scott Thurm of

The Wall Street Journal

penned a very hard-hitting piece looking at this issue, breaking a ton of ground on the subject. I regret that I didn't remember that piece -- which talked about

Redback Networks

(RBAK)

-- when I wrote my praise this weekend.

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