NEW YORK (
TheStreet) -- For couples on a budget, the holidays can be a fun and frugal time of year with lots of window shopping and movie watching -- or they can become a nightmare of overspending and deceit. Unfortunately, a desire to please everyone on your gift list may lead to spending more than either of your budgets will allow. When couples aren't honest with one another about where the money is going, experts say it's the perfect recipe for trouble.
Thankfully, couples who follow the following five rules for holiday spending should ring in the New Year without financial or relationship woes.
"The very first step in any of this is to set up a mechanism for dialogue," says Ken Kamen, president of Mercadien Asset Management. "It's not just important at the holidays, but for all the things you buy throughout the course of the year -- are you going to buy his golf clubs or your shoes? It's a constant exchange."
When you set up a framework for talking about money, it shouldn't look too differently from the way many large companies do it, Kamen says, suggesting that couples make it a point to get together "once a quarter" to discuss goals."The more you communicate the better it's going to be," he says. "When it comes to matters of money, there can be a lot of resentment there about who spent what or who spent more throughout the course of the year, and keeping an open dialogue going is the best way to prevent that." When you get together to discuss your financial picture, Suzanna de Baca, vice president of wealth strategies at Ameriprise Financial, says you should keep a record of what you and your spouse think at the time. "Write down your plans," de Baca says. "As you work through your holiday budget, record your discussion. This can help you and your spouse come to a compromise and can also create a document for you to refer back to throughout the holiday weeks and can even be a point of reference when the 2014 holiday season comes around." 2. No surprises -- even if you think you're being thoughtful. "This can be confusing for any relationship," Kamen says. "It's like we share everything, but wait, we don't share everything. As a couple, the two of you are an economic unit and the best gift you can give your partner is intimacy -- the intimacy of knowing what you're doing and how much you're spending."