NEW YORK ( TheStreet) -- Q: Strange twist of events -- I met a woman online that I dated in college. Neither of us realized this until we met in person, otherwise we wouldn't have agreed to meet.She seems to have matured a lot in the 12 years since I knew her, and I'm surprisingly attracted to her still. Issue is... I've gone through a lot of bad relationships post-college and I've a really hard time trusting myself in this department. I'm just not open to getting hurt again. How should I proceed?
Caution: Be careful with your quick judgments on her character. Twelve years is a long time, and if you're not a little immature in college you're just not doing it right!
Keep in mind you have your memories, but she's also got hers. Experience her for who she is today. Don't rely on your 12-year-old memory of who she was way back when.
Respect not only your hesitation but also her time. Think about this from every angle before you jump in. If you're going to remain unapproachable, unreachable and unaffected by her, the intimacy you crave won't build.
Explore: If you want to see who she really is, you have to be willing to reveal who you really are.