When you can, I would suggest avoiding huge crowds and loud concerts, instead opt for dinners and art exhibits!
You're obviously never going to get it perfect! And try not to spend so much time over analyzing your evening plans that you forget to enjoy yourself.
It's magical thinking to believe you will be able to socialize like your peers without your body reminding you of your chronic pain. Understand that there's no shame in creating a social world that suits your individualized needs. Find enjoyment in the fact that this is your right, and feel confident around doing so.
You've succeeded in doing this at work. Now it's time to take care of what happens after 5!Thanks for writing, and keep your head up. Please send all questions and comments to ASK NOAH at firstname.lastname@example.org. Have a profitable and peaceful week, Noah