LOS ANGELES, Feb. 12, 2013 /PRNewswire/ -- For men and women stuck in the logistical ruts of their lives as husbands, wives, life partners, and taxi services to kids, life may not be all wine and roses for Valentine's Day.
Relationship Coach and Marriage Intervention Catalyst Dr. Jackie Black says, "Let's face it. The path to wine and roses can take a sharp detour from 'happily ever after' to 'game over' at dirty laundry, flu symptoms, and bills."
To head off this potential collision and to transform from the day-to-day rut of family living to rediscover the spark of appreciation that brought partners together at the start, Dr. Black offers these practical strategies and timeless tips.
#1 Make a gift of your time and energy.If he takes Fido out for his 10 p.m. walk every night, offer to do it for him the next four nights. If taking the trash cans to the curb is his job, take this task on for the next week to give him a break. Tell her that you are going to take the kids away Saturday morning so she can have the house to herself for several hours and then meet up for lunch somewhere at noon. Don't miss the sweetness and the joy you will both experience by reaching out and connecting with each other from the center of your being and the bottom of your heart. That's the real meaning of Valentine's Day. #2 Relationships are like bank accounts. If you keep pulling money out without making deposits, bankruptcy is certain. What does the balance sheet of your love life look like? Relationships are living breathing entities. Your investment of deliberate intention, and focused time, energy and attention is the order of the day. Your relationship can't wait until it is convenient for you, the to-do list is done, or you are at leisure. Relationships grow and flourish when both people show up and make consistent deposits. One person alone, even if that one person makes huge deposits, cannot build and maintain a joyful, satisfying relationship for both.