Another group that finds it hard to keep their financial challenges secret comprises the growing number of adult children who are being forced to live with their parents. Investopedia says that there's even an acronym for people in this position: KIPPERS, or Kids in Parents' Pockets Eroding Retirement Savings. Reuters recently quoted Census Bureau data that suggest that, between 2007 and 2010, 1.2 million extra KIPPERS moved back into their parents' homes, bringing their number to 15.8 million. Again, KIPPERS frequently find it hard to keep their situation to themselves.
In many circumstances, keeping your debt secret serves only to put off the evil hour, and simply makes the final denouement even more embarrassing.
It's good to talk
How much easier it would be if we were all more open about these sorts of problems. If the people who are important in your life knew you were experiencing difficulties, they might better understand why you are reluctant to join them in restaurants, bring a bottle of good wine to dinner or travel long distances to family events. And sharing information with your kids may help them moderate their expectations, as well as provide them with potentially valuable money-management lessons for their own futures. Being upfront about how tight things are could allow you to save unnecessary expense, and pay down debt faster.
You might even get an offer or two of help. However, those sometimes present their own problems. If your parents, say, aren't rich, and your chances of repaying them are slight, then you might need to summon the strength to decline their kindness. Better to go bust owing a few credit card companies than crippling mom and dad financially.