If it isn't advisable for one half of a couple to get tied into the other's loans and bills, it is even more dangerous to bring family members into the picture. No matter how well a partner gets along with the potential in-laws, introducing money to the equation is an invitation for trouble. Even if they offer to help out with that needed loan, either by directly lending the money or co-signing, the help may not be worth the hard feelings that will haunt you if anything goes wrong with a repayment plan.
The American Dream has many couples dreaming of buying a first home and perhaps even starting a family. But realizing such plans can be too much too soon. Make sure you understand that an asset such as a house complicates your relationship. Are you prepared to meet the cost of a mortgage payment, insurance and regular maintenance? Is your relationship on solid enough ground that you don't have to fear a messy divvying-up of assets? "I guess the worse thing would be buying a house, because that's the largest amount of money most of us put our money on the dotted line for, and so many people outside of a marriage situation will buy a house together," Cunningham says. "Then you have the lack of a marriage, which sometimes makes it easy to bail on the emotional commitment, but it is still very difficult to then untangle the financial commitment." Not having an exit strategy
Love can fade as fast as it blooms. From teenagers to senior citizens, every new relationship feels like a sure thing -- until it isn't. It may be a difficult conversation to have amid fast-beating hearts and fluttering eyelashes, but couples need to discuss what will happen if their financial arrangements outlast their relationship. That conversation may not be put to paper as a prenuptial agreement, but certain, very specific items need to be agreed to verbally and, if possible, in writing. How will joint credit cards be treated? What is the plan for discharging jointly acquired debt? Who gets what physical assets? How will insurance policies be updated or investment portfolios unmingled? Hashing out such details may not make for a fun date, but in the long run having those conversations may spare grief and uncertainty and, at the very least, make a split far less acrimonious or litigious. -- Written by Joe Mont in Boston. >To contact the writer of this article, click here: Joe Mont. >To follow the writer on Twitter, go to http://twitter.com/josephmont. >To submit a news tip, send an email to: firstname.lastname@example.org.