Annika Mengisen
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Cigar smoke encircles the rugged face of a world-weary man as he reclines in his worn leather chair, his shoes on the desk.
Through the frosted glass of his door the quintessential hourglass figure approaches, grabs a tissue and sobs, "I think there's another woman."
As you snuggle up to your beloved this Valentine's Day, maybe reveling in the romanticism of a similar film noir theme, you doubt you would ever be that silhouette seeking help. But can you be certain? Real-life private investigators can help you find out.
The Truth Starts Here
Cheaters never prosper, but New Jersey-based private investigator Tony DeLorenzo does. According to this private detective and infidelity expert, 65% of his cases reveal that a spouse is cheating, so it doesn't hurt to err on the side of suspicion. "Go to a major hotel lounge any day of the week, and I guarantee [the couples] there are not married," says DeLorenzo. Since he took over All State Investigations from his father in 1983, DeLorenzo's workload has grown 25% every year, which he attributes to the rise in Internet dating and the fact that most women are out of homes and in the workforce. One of his All State offices receives up to 300 calls per week. The days leading up to Feb. 14 are particularly busy for DeLorenzo because "the [cheater] has to see his wife and girlfriend that same week," he explains. This activity often tips off a questioning spouse. "If the wife wants to go out Wednesday night, I can guarantee that Monday or Tuesday the husband is having dinner with his girlfriend." DeLorenzo also recommends looking for unexplained credit-card purchases during that week. He related the story of one sorry fellow who found hidden lingerie and thought his wife was planning a surprise for Valentine's. When the racy items never surfaced, he knew something was amiss. Most affairs last six to nine months before people hire an investigator, but many are just in denial, says DeLorenzo. "A lot of people will ... cancel because they are afraid of the results," he says. "Half a spouse is better than no spouse [to them]." DeLorenzo and Dawn Ricci's best-selling book, The 28 Tell-Tale Signs of a Cheating Spouse, identifies some top infidelity indicators:- Working a lot of overtime
- Hanging out with new friends
- Lack of intimacy
- Interested in new style of clothes and exercise
- Taking business trips alone
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