The Great Entertainer

Howard Weiner, executive vice president of event design and production firm Two Downtown, says, "Travel and overnight expenses will be commensurate with their level of popularity. For Tony Bennett, think a suite at the Four Seasons. Others want first class flights or private jets."

The host is responsible for salaries for crew members, too, which can be sizable for a band like the Eagles -- they tour with 72 support people, according to Grabow.

He says the expenses and extras can cost as much as the performer's fee.

On the Bill

Once they've agreed to do a private party, the majority of acts will deliver a scaled-down version of their regular show, since it's unlikely the party venue could accommodate a stadium-size presentation.

The performance should include songs from the band's standard repertoire, including the hits, and typically lasts 45-75 minutes. Bands that play for dance parties may do 90 minutes to two hours.

In general, most top-flight entertainers won't take requests, and their contracts often say that they have the right to choose the material.

However, it never hurts to ask politely.

Performers reluctant to delve into their older material may be accommodating if approached properly. "I love it when you sing such-and-such" often works, Weiner says.

Some stars will accommodate a request to sing something special for the guest of honor. Tutera reports that K.C., of K.C. and the Sunshine Band, recently sang "Happy Birthday" for a private client. Grabow says Paul Anka has been known to write and sing a custom song for the honoree.

Weiner says it's rare for stars to mix and mingle with the crowd, though they may agree to visit with the guest of honor in their dressing rooms.

If it's important to the host that the guests have a chance to shake hands with a star, include a request for a meet-and-greet in the contract.

However, "It won't be an hour-long photo and autograph session," Marshall warns; 15 minutes after the show will be more likely.